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Forgiveness is a process we cannot ignore if we want to become the people God created us to be.
In the course of my ministry, I've talked with many people who've spent years in bondage because they were unable or unwilling to forgive someone. When they finally understood and applied forgiveness, they experienced an awesome freedom. This is a process we can't ignore if we want to become the people God created us to be.
Step 1: Recognize we've been totally forgiven. Once we understand the depth of our sin and the distance it placed between us and God – and once we get a glimpse of the sacrifice He made to restore fellowship with us – we should not hesitate to forgive. If we comprehend God's forgiveness toward us but refuse to forgive those who've wronged us, then we're like the wicked, ungrateful slave Jesus described in Matthew 18:23-34. Although his huge debt was forgiven, the slave immediately demanded repayment of a trifling amount someone owed him. Realizing God has totally forgiven us of a debt we can never repay helps us learn the importance of forgiving others.
Step 2: Release the offender from the debt we feel is owed to us. This involves mentally bundling all of our hostile feelings and surrendering them to Christ.
We can accomplish this by meeting face-to-face with the person who wronged us or by using an alternate approach. In cases where this person lives far away, has died, or is totally unapproachable, it may be necessary to use the “chair substitution” method. Sit facing an empty chair, imagining the other individual seated across from you. Then, confess your resentment. You can also use this technique when you want to practice confessing a wrong attitude before attempting it in person.
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